You should not divorce your new wife
25-11-2008 | IslamWeb
Question:
Dear Esteemed Imam, I am a married person, and living alone for more than four years away from my wife in a foriegn country. I have entered into a another marriage with full shart achieved, i.e. 1. Witnesses (More than 6 men) 2. Mahr 3. Ijab and Kubool When I married, I had no intention of divorce, however when I married, I did not think nor my new wife thought of the consequences of our marrriage on our famillies. So we decided to divorce. I have not informed my wife of my new marriage yet. only very few ppl know that we are married. Is my marriage correct and halal? Me and her agreed to divorce due to complications with families, can we set the divorce date, or should it happen when it happens. I am totally confused and feel very guilty toward my first wife as her attitude has changed from bad to good.. I feel that I have betrayed her and been unjust to the new wife for wanting to divorce her I seek your advise and guidance on this. Salamualaykum
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
Your marriage is correct and it is not a betrayal to your first wife; for more benefit, please refer to Fataawa 82068 and 84411.
It is not a condition that your first wife knows about your second marriage in order that this marriage be valid. If the marriage took place fulfilling its conditions, like identifying the two spouses, their proposal and acceptance, and the consent of the guardian of the woman, and the presence of witnesses and the like, then the marriage is valid unless there is another impediment; for more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 83629.
All what a husband who has more than one wife is obliged to do is to be just between them.
As regards divorce, the permissible divorce that is in accordance with the Sunnah is one-time divorce that is issued by the husband to his wife when she becomes pure [to wait until she is not in menses] without having sexual intercourse with her. For more benefit, refer to Fataawa 82735 and 85415.
Finally, our advice to you is not to divorce your second wife and to endeavour to solve the problems that press on you to divorce. If you are not able to solve these problems, then you may issue divorce according to the conditions which we mentioned above.
Allaah Knows best.