Wants to talk to his ex-girlfriend to call her to Islam
2-12-2009 | IslamWeb
Question:
Please give an urgent reply since the matter is very urgent. One of my friends (Indian), who is now aged 21 years had an extra-marital relationship with a two year elder non-muslim girl. Eventhough my friend was born in a Muslim Family, he was not practicing islam in proper manner. They lived together in one room for 1.5 years and had estra marital sexual relationship. Later, my friend took her to her house and abandoned her. Thereafter he got Hidayath and started practicing islam in proper manner. He repented his earlier acts. In my opinion, he has studied about islam properly and is practicing it to the best of his ability. Now after long one year, she called him yesterday over phone and she wants to join him again. She still beleives in her earlier faith. Is it permissible for him to see her or talk to her over phone for guiding her to Islam. Is it permissible for him to disobey the commands of her parents (who had directed him to avoid her) for accepting her since he has an obligation towards her. Will Allah forgive him if he refuses her request to join him without making any attempt to guide her to the straight path.
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
That young man is obliged to sincerely repent to Allaah because it is not permissible for a Muslim man to have a forbidden relationship with a non-Mahram woman as we clarified in Fatwa 81356.
Indeed, he did well by cutting the relationship with that woman and it is not permissible for him to meet her or talk to her even with the intention of calling her to Islam as this may lead him to commit a sin with her again. That is because he is not religiously obliged to call her to Islam; he does not have any obligation towards her as he believes. Also, the truthfulness of his repentance and its acceptance do not depend on him calling her to Islam. For more benefit on the conditions of repentance, please refer to Fataawa 86527 and 87903.
Moreover, he is obliged to stay away from her as we mentioned whether or not her parents ask him to do so.
As for calling that girl or any other girls to Islam, it could be done by appointing some girls who have religious knowledge to call her or them to Islam. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 105117.
Allaah Knows best.