His parents refuse to let him marry a girl he is madly in love with
7-4-2011 | IslamWeb
Question:
salaam alaikum..!!! am very much happy to know this site clears alll doubts & briefs about islam n leads a man to straight path! am very thankfull for this site! can you please understand my problem & lead me right path.. i have a sister, 1boy use to like her from 3years & proposed but my family very religious, she use to ignore all boys & alwyz ignored him.... but after 3years of ignoring, after some days she started liking him.. but she informed parents about him just because my sister didnt go futher & was truthfull my parents didnt take much action on her but tld her,if they dont like him she should forget and marry whomever they tell. she agreed but that boy is very scrad of his parents! my parents waitd cause my sister still studying & they see my sisters happiness! that boy loves my sister alot, like mad, he will die if he dosent get my sister but my sister still is in limits cause of parents.. after 1year he told his parents & parents telling no cause they want him to marry in relation & that boy dosent agree but he is also dam scared of his parents.. my sister too loves him alot alot like mad but can sacrifise him for parents. That boy will die, if my sister dosent marry him! he also tried 1nce & was admitted in hospital. He tells my sister, he will bring his 2family member & get married to her with my parents too... but my sister says no cause in marrrige both side of girls & boys should agree for the marriage.. my parents also say same, Can you say what should be done in this case,,, my sister very sick thinking about this cause, if she dosent marry her dn dat guy will die. The boy is 21years & my sister now 19yers.. please can give the answer as soon as possible. i would realy be very thankfull..... thank u... allah hafiz
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
Ibn ‘Abbaas 
narrated that the Prophet said: ''The best solution for those who love each other is to marry.” [Ibn Maajah]
Therefore, if this girl and that young man love each other very much as you mentioned, then the solution for this is to facilitate their marriage; it is sufficient that each one of them wants to keep himself chaste from what is forbidden.
However, that young man should endeavor to convince his parents with every permissible means, among which is to seek the help of some people who may influence them. If they are convinced, praise be to Allaah, but if this is not possible and he fears harm on himself if he does not marry her, it is permissible for him to marry her even without the consent of his parents. Then, he should endeavour to please them.
We advise your parents not to condition the consent of that young man’s parents in order to marry their daughter off to him.
In any case, if this marriage does not take place, then each one of them should go his own way as Allaah may bless each one of them with someone better. As regards love sickness, then this can be treated; for more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 84544.
Allaah Knows best.