Her husband plans to study abroad and leave her with his parents
5-9-2011 | IslamWeb
Question:
I am working part time in an EPC company and have a seven months old baby boy.We live with our in-laws and my husband is their only son. We are married for last one and a half year. My husband has planned to go in Europe for two year studies. During this period, I have to stay with in-law and have to financialy support to myself and our baby and may have to financialy contribute to our house. I am not willing with his plan and is continously doing opposition with his decision. But he is so stubborn that he is not listening to me and his mother is also supporting him. I know I am the one who will suffer more. His parents get their pension and house rent every month but I have to work outside in order to support myself and baby. I have to do home cores in addition to working outside and taking care of baby. In this situation,sometimes i feel that I should get out of this relationship but when I think of baby then I try to leave this feeling. But the situation is getting worst day by day and I am getting depressed.Please tell me in the light of Quran and Ahadees, what should I do?
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His Slave and Messenger.
We advise you to reach an understanding with your husband, and explain to him that maintenance for you and your child is due on him according to what is reasonable; and that no maintenance is binding upon you even if you have income; and that if you spend (on yourself and your child) with the intention of asking him to compensate you, then you have the right to demand to take it back from him. For further information, see Fatwa 85012.
Also, your right upon him is that he should not be away from you for more than six months without an legitimate excuse, as we have previously shown in Fatwa 85711.
If your husband insists on traveling and abstains from spending on you, then you should balance between the harm of divorce, and the harm of remaining in this state, and choose that which is less harmful.
Allaah Knows best.