She can't get rid of a boy she met on Facebook
18-12-2014 | IslamWeb
Question:
'AOA i am 16 years old girl 1 year before i came in a relationship with a boy on facebook we never met eachother but we used to talk on phone i mean i have nt gave him my phone but i dont how he find out and then we came in relationship we have a close relation we never meet eachother but we used to talk daily on phone but from time to time i realized that iam doing wrong and this is not according to Islam i told that guy that i want to break up this realtion but he dont want and said that he loves me and he also came to my college he said he only want to see me and said that he will not come near just from far but i ws scared so i told him that no i will not show myself i know i was doing wrong and i m really sad that why i had made a realtion with ghair mehram and secondly he is a professional hacker i m scared coz he know about my home address and m scared i dont know what to do i never want to hurt my parents if they got to know they will be very hurt and i m very upset coz i realize my mistake and every day i cry in front of ALLAH to forgive me or commiting sin although i never done ZIna but still i hate myself for talking with a ghair mehram plz i need your help plz sorry for the long questin but plz tell me what should i do? is this any ayat or something so that i will read it daily to get rid of this plz help me' plz help me I know relationship with a ghair mehram is haram in Islam so plz is this any ayat or something so I could get rid of that guy
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His slave and Messenger.
Indeed, the devil is an enemy to man. He is eager to lead him astray and to lead him to destruction. The most dangerous weapons of the devil is that he draws the Muslim gradually to sin; Allaah says (what means): {O you who have believed, enter into Islam completely [and perfectly] and do not follow the footsteps of Satan. Indeed, he is to you a clear enemy.} [Quran 2:208] So, you were wrong in following the footsteps of the devil, but you did well when you realized the seriousness of the matter and regretted what you had done. You should make this remorse a sincere repentance. For more benefit on the conditions of repentance, please refer to Fatwa 86527.
This cause of fear itself, and the overemphasis of the matter within your self, may be from the deception of the devil, who seeks to cause you grief and anxiety and make your life miserable. This may lead to undesirable consequences. Therefore, you should seek the help of Allaah against Satan the cursed, and remember Allaah as much as you can, as it is by the remembrance of Allaah that one is comforted and relaxed. Allaah says (what means): {Those who have believed and whose hearts are assured by the remembrance of Allaah. Unquestionably, by the remembrance of Allaah hearts are assured.} [Quran 13:28]
You should supplicate Allaah as much as possible to drive that boy away from you. Allaah is the protector and it is to Him that we should turn to at times of difficulties. Allaah answers the supplication of the distressed and He removes harm; Allaah says (what means): {Is He [not best] who responds to the desperate one when he calls upon Him and removes evil and makes you inheritors of the earth? Is there a deity with Allaah? Little do you remember.} [Quran 27:62]
If it becomes evident that that boy does actually want to expose you, then there is some advice which we have mentioned in Fatwa 157977.
Finally, we hope that what happened to you will be a lesson to all girls; they must beware of human wolves and those who manipulate the emotions of women to bring them into their traps, as they try to provoke them and blackmail them in order to achieve their cheap goals; Allaah says (what means): {So take warning, O people of vision.} [Quran 59:2]
Allaah Knows best.