Father refuses good suitor because of conflict between families

20-4-2015 | IslamWeb

Question:

Asalamu alaikomWhen i was in high school there was a very Nice practising brother there whom i liked very much.It was also obvious that he liked me to but because dating in islam is haram we never got together.But we would always pray in our salat to god to bring us together in the future inshallah I went abroad to study and he built he's career.And one day he came to my father to ask for my hand in marriage but my father refused because he does not get along with the boy's father.And there is a conflict between his father and my cousins about a piece of land.So can I not marry this Muslim brother because our fathers don't get along?or because the conflict between my cousins and his father.I think it is not the sons fault that the conflict happened and it is between my cousins and his father ,and the son has nothing to do with it.

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Answer:

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His slave and Messenger.

The guardian has no right to reject someone who proposes to marry a girl under his guardianship if such a man's religiosity and moral conduct are satisfactory; we have already clarified this in Fatwa 87621.

The fact that your father does not like this young man's father, or that dissension exists between your cousins and his father does not justify rejecting his proposal. Therefore, we advise you to invoke Allaah in prayer, and to be kind with your father and try to convince him even by seeking the help of some righteous people who you think he would listen to.

If he is not convinced, you have the right to take the matter to an Islamic court to marry you off if your father insists on refusing.

However, if you prefer to satisfy your father, then it is up to you, and Allaah may bless you with someone better than this young man because of this.

Allaah Knows best.