All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.
First of all, we present our condolences to you for the death of your mother, and we ask Allah to forgive her and have mercy upon her.
We also ask Allah to bless you with a righteous husband.
We advise you to supplicate Allah as much as possible, as He hears and answers our supplications. A person who hopes in Allah and whose heart is attached to Him will never be at a loss; Allah says (what means): {And when My servants ask you [O Muhammad] concerning Me - indeed I am near. I respond to the invocation of the supplicant when he calls upon Me. So let them respond to Me [by obedience] and believe in Me that they may be [rightly] guided.} [Quran 2:186]
According to the most preponderant opinion of the scholars, suitability in marriage is in religion and moral conduct, so the parents should not refuse a suitable man for marriage simply because he does not have a college degree. It is hoped that a religious man who has good moral conduct fears Allah in regards to his wife.
Ibn Qudaamah stated in his book Minhaaj Al-Qaasideen that a man asked Al-Hasan Al-Basri, βTo whom shall I marry my daughter?β He replied, βTo the one who fears Allah, because if he loves her, he will honor her, and if he hates her, he will not be unjust to her.β
Therefore, we advise you to try to convince your father and seek the help of righteous people to intercede for you. If he is convinced and accepts that you marry that young man, then all the best. But if he insists on refusing, then we do not advise you to marry him while your father insists on refusing him unless you fear that you would commit a sin with him or with others if you do not marry him. Some scholars explicitly stated that the father must be obeyed if he refuses that his child gets married to a particular person. Perhaps if you refrain from getting married to that man as an act of obedience to your parents, Allah may bless you with a better husband. For more benefit, please refer to fatwas 87690 and 303685.
In addition to this, getting married to someone from a different country may be a cause for some problems in the future, either because of having a different culture than him or because he wishes that his wife moves with him to a country other than that of her family, as a result discord may happen, which could lead to divorce. So you should take this into consideration.
If marrying that man was not made possible, then do not grieve or be in despair as there are many men out there, and Allah may have wanted good for you and repelled harm off you, as He knows the consequences of things; Allah says (what means): {But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not.} [Quran 2:216]
Infatuation with a person can be treated; for benefit in this regard, please refer to fatwa 84544.
Allah knows best.