In Friendship with a Boy for Long and Agreed to Marry but Informed Her that He Wants Second Wife
25-10-2020 | IslamWeb
Question:
Asalamualaikum. Thank you so much for giving me the opportunity to ask this. May Allah increase you in knowledge. I am a 24year old lady and I’m planning on getting married soon. I have been with this brother for eight years now and now that we’re ready to settle down he recently told me that he’d like to have another wife in the future and I’m not okay with it. I told him I don’t want that and the choices are; he either don’t do it or I accept his terms or we break up. Currently I told him we should break up and he said okay. I just want to ask if I’m making the right decision or not. Please I need your guidance. Thank you.
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
First of all, we would like to draw your attention that the acquaintances that happen between young men and young women and what is known as love relationships between them is a door to evil and corruption; for more benefit in this regard, please refer to Fatwa 363454.
Our advice to you is that if this man is righteous, then accept him as your husband. If you do not accept that he marries another wife, it is permissible for you to stipulate in the marriage contract that he should not marry a second wife. In which case, if he marries again, it is your right to invalidate the marriage.
For more benefit in this regard, please refer to Fatwa 84251.
If he does not consent to this, then consult some wise people from among your family or other righteous people, and balance between the benefits and harms in marrying him in that case and not marrying him, and choose the best for you, after performing the Istikhaarah prayer.
Allah knows best.