Impatiently waiting to rejoin husband

17-11-2002 | IslamWeb

Question:

I am a 21 year old, newly married lady. I only stayed four months after married with my husband and then he had to leave to Canada as an immigrant and I am staying with my parent now waiting for not less than six months time to get my immigration papers ready. The idea of staying a long time away from my husband doesn't sound comfortable to me; I really need him beside me and the chances of getting a better job for him is more available in Canada.Please advise me I really don't want to stay far away from him but I am forced to wait!

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Answer:

Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds; and may His blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon all his Family and Companions.

No doubt that there are great dangers for Muslims residing in non-Muslim countries. Such dangers may spoil one's religion and his relations with his Lord, Allah.
Thus, the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) warned Muslim to stay among non-Muslims. He (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said, "I am exempt (from every obligation) towards every Muslim who stays among polytheists" [ Abu Dawood ].
This means that it is not allowed for Muslims to stay in those countries except for one who is compelled (i.e. who cannot live in Muslim countries) or one stays there for treatment, Da'wah, acquiring knowledge that Muslims need and not available in Muslim countries.
But, residence in non-Muslim countries for the sake of luxury and easy life is not permitted.
Then, a glance at the state of affairs of those who live there will strengthen our opinion in this concern, since so many people lose their religion and families. No doubt that keeping one's religion must be given priority, since religion is the most important before wealth, honor, ones' self.
So, you have to advise your husband in this concern and follow what is Halal.
Therefore, if it is proved for you that it is lawful to stay there, then you have to fear Allah and to be careful of forms of evil that prevail there. Then, we advise you to spend most of your time at home with your family, to devote more time for reciting and studying the Holy Qur'an, to put its orders into practice, and to stick to the Sunnah of Allah's Messenger (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) and his wives (may Allah be pleased them all) since they were the best demonstration of Islam that every Muslim woman should to hold fast to.
Thus, you will not, Insha Allah, feel of absence from your homeland nor shortcoming in your religion and adherence to Islam.
In addition, do your best to have social relations with good women since they will lead you to good, and vice versa.
If Allah, The Great and Almighty, grants you a child before returning home, you have to educate him/her according to Islam. May Allah grant you success to achieve what is good and right.
Allah knows best.