Husband Refuses to Have Children because He Insists to Have Second Wife
4-12-2002 | IslamWeb
Question:
Assalamu Alikaum,I have a question which is bothering me always. My husband and I are separated for two years. I do love my husband very much. But the problem is I love to have child with my husband, but he said he will not have child with me unless he gets a second wife. I am very stressed day and Night why I can't have my husband's child, I know Islam is allowed man to marry four wives, but this is very injustice in my part that. My husband is 25 1/2 years old. Each times I tell him he says no if he had child with me none will marry him because he had child with me. It is very disturbing me a lot. Must of the time I cry alot why I he dont want to have child with me. I am trying to explain him but he dont seem to take any notice, and he gets angry and leave my home goes back to his parent's house. If there is any dua which you can advice me dear Brother in Islam. A good friend of mine adviced me to read Surah Maryam where Zaekariya SWAW prayed to Allah SWT. I did read but nothing is happening. I am really hurt please help me. I am looking forward your reply. Thanks Jazakallah Khairan. Wasalaam
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
If you are still married to this man, we advise you to return to him and accept his condition above all that it is a temporary condition. Maybe, he would marry soon and accept to have children with you. You may still try to convince him to let you conceive without conditions. Seek the Help of Allah, ask Allah to make him accept your demand. You can also seek the help of an intermediator whom you think has some influence on him like one of his parents.
On the other hand, know dear sister, that we do not know any specific Du'aa’ (supplication) that should be said in such circumstance, neither do we know any specific Soorah that should be recited in this situation. But make general Du'aa’.
If your separation from him was through divorce, then it might be better for you. We hope that Allah will give you a pious husband who would meet your desires without conditions. But if you want this man only, then you may talk to him but not in seclusion and express your desire to return to him and accept his condition. When you return to wedlock life, there is no harm that you ask him to let you have children from him without conditions.
For more benefit that the husband has no right to deprive his wife from having children, please refer to Fataawa 385597, 195927, 278053, 87397, 101099, and 84472.
Allah knows best.