Sexual rights of a wife

5-10-2003 | IslamWeb

Question:

I am really thankful for the opportunity you provided us, that we could share our problems here. I really want to know the wife's rights related to sexual relationships. My question is: what wife should do if her husband can't satisfy her sexually, he is very good husband in all the ways but just don't have interest in sex. Have some physical problem due to which unable to have kids but still fit for intercourse but now with the passage of time he is loosing interest in sex. Whereas wife wants to have sex and still want to try again and again for kids, still hopeful. The wife is really upset because of her husband's attitude. She is easily attracted to bad movies and at times wants to enjoy through movies. What should she do?

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Answer:

Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds; and may His blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon all his Family and Companions. The husband should deal honourably and kindly with his wife in everything, above all, in regards to the expenditure and the sexual relationships. In fact her right to sexual intercourse is given priority over other rights as the main objective behind marriage is to satisfy the sexual desire of both spouses. And if the husband satisfies his wife's sexual desire he is rewarded for that if he had the proper intention before indulging in sex with her. Muslim reported that the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said: There is a Sadaqa in man's sexual intercourse. [ Muslim ] Ibn qudamah said: Imam Ahmad was once asked whether the man was rewarded for having sex with his wife while he did not have any desire for sex. Ahmad replied affirmatively. The wife also should beautify herself for her husband to please him and excite his desire using any lawful means. She can even tell him expressingly about her desire and need for sex. As for using pornographic films and photos, this is forbidden. It is but a Satan's gate to sin and depravity. So fear Allah, be patient and seek the Reward of Allah. We ask Allah to guide you and ease your matters. So, be patient and tell your husband about the reward he could get anytime he satisfies your sexual need. Allah knows best.