His wife does not want to live in his country, but wants him to come to her country

23-3-2005 | IslamWeb

Question:

I'm Muslim man, I was living in Kuwait and I was born there also. I'm married from Hungarian lady, she is Christian, I have two children, and she doesn't like to come in Kuwait to live with me. She wants to live in her country with my children and I work in Kuwait and I don't like to go to Hungary. Now my father and mother they told me to married for Muslim woman in Kuwait. What can I do?
Answer:

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. We ask Allaah to exalt his mention as well as that of his family and all his companions.

 

If you know that your wife is resisting and you do not expect her to obey you, then you have to find a way to take the children from her to be in your country. Then if she wants to join her children she can do so, otherwise you have to divorce her and she has no right to foster them. The majority of scholars may Allaah have mercy upon them are of the view that it is a condition for a mother to be a Muslim in order to foster the children, because it is feared that she will nurture them according to her religion. Allaah says (which means): {And never will Allaah grant to the disbelievers a way over the believers.}[Quran 4:141].

There is no doubt that you, the father, are responsible for the education of your children because if you are negligent and leave them with their Christian mother in a non-Muslim country, then you will be questioned about it on the Day of Resurrection. The Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) said: "All of you are guardians and will be questioned about those under your guardianship…, and the man is a guardian of his family and will be questioned about them." [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

So you have to fear Allaah with regards to your children and bring them up according to Islamic principles so that they would be a credit reserved for you during your life and after you die.

As regards the order of your parents to marry a Muslim woman, Imaam Ahmad may Allaah have mercy upon him said: 'If a person is ordered by his parents to marry, I order him to get married (i.e. I rule that he is obliged to get married).'

Therefore, you have to obey your parents if they order you to get married and you are able to do so. 

Allaah knows best.

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