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A wife stipulating that her husband should not beat her

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Assalamu alaikum Sheikh, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pKMPVpjYrN4 In the video above explaining the ayah about the 'darb' of women in surat Al Nisaa, the speaker cites a hadith from Sunan Abu Dawud in which the Prophet, peace be upon him, says something like, "by what right does a man hit his wife ..." and says that the Prophet, pbuh, allowed women then to put in marriage contracts a condition that their husbands cannot hit them. I would like to know please the text of this hadith mentioned and whether it is authentic and it is location in Sunan Abu Dawud. Jazakum Allah khair.

Answer

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His Slave and Messenger.

The Hadeeth that forbids beating wives is reported in Sunan Abu Daawood on the authority of Iyaas ibn ‘Abdullaah ibn Abi Thubaab who said: “The Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said: "Do not beat the female slaves of Allaah.” So, ‘Umar  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  him said: “The wives have become very daring towards their husbands. So the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) permitted beating them. Then, many wives complained to the wives of the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) about their husbands beating them. Thereupon, the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said: “Indeed, many women complained to Aal Muhammad (i.e. to his wives) about their husbands [who beat them]; those [husbands] are not the best among yourselves.

Abu Daawood  may  Allaah  have  mercy  upon  him wrote a chapter about this entitled: Chapter about beating wives.

This Hadeeth as you see does not mention what you stated in the question that the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) permitted the wives to put a condition in the marriage contract that their husbands should not beat them. Indeed, we have not come across a Hadeeth with this meaning neither in Sunan Abu Daawood nor in any other books of Sunnah.

For more benefit on beating one’s wife and the conditions of doing so, please refer to Fataawa 89480, 84120 and 89180.

Allaah Knows best.

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