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Fatwa CenterWants consulation while studying in America awaiting her husband
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I'm a woman living alone in America, I came to this country with my husband, but after we arrived he forced me to live like Americans, to stop wearing Hijab, to eat like them and to work in a company that uses women to sell its products. I tried to change him many times to make him stronger and believe in our Aqeeda, but to no avail. He drinks alcohol and changed his Arabic name to American name. He told me that all he is doing is just to be in a better situation in America and become rich. He let me live in a room with an American family just to save the money. I have worked for 4 years and I didn't get any cent of him. He doesn’t pray, he is never jealous for me and never cares that men can talk with me, even his friends. I was very afraid because my family doesn't care for me; they just want me to send them money. So I let him divorce me, and believe me only God was with me. I prayed a lot especially in the night and feel stronger than at any time in my life. So after I divorced I asked my family to return to my country. They refused, and my father asked me never to come back. Earlier I had let people know that I had a successful life in America. When I worked and sent money they never cared whether I needed some one near me. I started to live alone, and believe me it was very difficult to live with these people, later I met a man who was very religious who was a big help to me before. He was a brother of my friend. When he found out what happened to me he asked to marry me, but my father refused him just because he is not rich and from the same area as my first husband. I was struggling to get a stable life, so I called a Mufti in America. He told me that I can marry this man, but I must have a wali and do Istikharah and trust in Allah.
I did and asked a member of the family to be my wali. He accepted because I have no uncle or brother; all are in other countries and never ask about me. So I married this man and I have a big change in my life. He never allows me to work and I never need for any thing. He always asks me about my Iman and tells me how to be stronger. I have begun studies for PHD because I'm a doctor and my husband wants me to study now until he can come and live with me. We can't live in our country because my family would never leave us in peace. I'm always on good relations with my family and prepare them to accept what I have chosen (just for GOD), but I want you to give me some supplications and Dua in my situation because I feel the hate of the people who study with me. And I do my night prayers and supplications of morning and evening, but I want more. Thank you for listening to me and sorry to be so long. But I need really your help.
Answer
Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds; and may His blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon all his Family and Companions.
First and foremost we thank this sister for not following the disobediences of her first husband and she has done the right thing when she left him. We ask Allah to reward her for her patience and sorrow.
As regards the supplications (Du'a) and remembrance (Adhkar) that could be said, we advise her to say the Du'a which is reported by Imam Ahmed and Al Bazzar and others that Ibn Massoud, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated that the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said: " No person afflicted by sorrow and anxiety and who says the following Du'a (supplication) except that Allah releases his anxiety and grants him happiness instead of sorrow. The Du'a is as follows:
"O, Allah, I am Your servant, son of Your servant, son of Your maid servant, my forelock is in Your hand, Your command over me is forever executed and Your decree over me is just. I ask you by every name belonging to You which You named yourself with, or revealed in Your book, or You taught to any of your creation, or You have preserved in the knowledge of the unseen with You, that You make the Qur'an the life of my heart and the light of the breast and a departure for my sorrow and a release for my anxiety."
Say this Dua as many thing as you can and Allah will relieve your sorrow and make you happy, Insha Allah.
Finally, we advise you to get the beneficial books of remembrance like the book entitled: 'Al- Wabil Al-Sayib', written by Ibn Al Qayyim, and Al-Kalim Al-Tayyib', written by Al-Nawawi, and Hisn Al Muslim by Saeed Ibn Wahf Al Qahtaani.
Allah knows best.
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