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Fatwa CenterHer father refuses to accept the proposal of a revert
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If my father refuses to consider a marriage proposal for me to a revert, coming from a Hindu family, and instead prefers me marry someone within our culture. Do I struggle to try and get my father to come to terms with this proposal or do I simply re-consider someone from within my culture?
I am aware when considering marriage it should be to someone who genuinely fears the wrath of Allaah, one who knows their duties in Islam, good knowledge, good Islamic ethics and morals. This does not change the fact that culturally a revert is not seen as a "Good proposal" this does concern me - what do I do if my father never considers such a proposal. Do I forget this proposal, as I know my father's blessing is required? I have prayed Istikhaara many times. Insha 'Allaah I pray Allah guides me in finding a suitable marriage partner.
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. We ask Allaah to exalt his mention as well as that of his family and all his companions.
We have mentioned before that the basis of suitability for marriage in Islam is religion and good moral character. Allaah Says (which means): {Verily, the most honourable of you with Allaah is that (believer) who has At-Taqwa [i.e. one of the Muttaqoon]…}[Qur'an 49:13].
The Prophet 
said: "There is no preference of an Arab over a non-Arab or a non-Arab over an Arab or a white over a black or a black over a white except by the (degree) of piety, you are all sons of Aadam, and Aadam was created from dust." [Ahmad]
The Prophet also said: "When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage, accede to his request. Otherwise, there will be temptation on Earth and extensive corruption." [At-Tirmithi, An-Nasaa'ee and Ibn Maajah] See Fatwa: 83445.
"Parents, as a rule, have much more interest in the welfare of their children than other people. Also, due to their having greater life experience, parents feel a real need to help their children gain as many advantages as possible. Allaah has fashioned them to love, to be kind and merciful to their offspring. Though Allaah has regarded them highly and has given them a special rank, they are not permitted to impose their desire on their children." See Fatwa: 83088.
A girl is not allowed to get married without the consent of her parents. So, if your parents do not force you to marry a non religious man, or a man you do not like for a religious reason then you have to obey them. Allaah will grant you a happy married life due to your obedience to your parents as He has ordered.
Allaah knows best.
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