Home
Discover Islam
Quran Recitations
Lectures
Fatwa
Articles
Fiqh
E-Books
Women
Boys & Girls 
Enter Question
View By Subject
Fatwa Of The Week
Selected Fatwa
Fatwa CenterExchanging messages with a man who decided to marry her
Question
I am a divorced sister I have one child, about 3 months ago I was introduced to a brother, he lives in another country and we spoke over the phone and emailed each other in order to get to know each other I told my mother about him, we decided to marry Inshaa’ Allaah, and he is moving to the country where I live, but this will take bit off time as he needs to finish a few thing related to his education. I know that communication between women and men are not allowed therefore we decided to stop all communication between us till he comes and I asked Allaah to forgive me although I was always careful with what I said. My question is can we at least communicate through email or text once a week just to find out how things are coming along, cause some Shaykhs say that the phone is not allowed but writing email or text is ok? Please can you clarify this for me as I do not want to do it if it is Haraam? Please can I have the reply in English?
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. We ask Allaah to exalt his mention as well as that of his family and all his companions.
First of all, we ask Allaah to reward you for being keen on abiding by the Islamic Law and not acting before knowing the religious ruling about the matter.
In principle, the relationship between a man and a marriageable woman should be stopped in order to block the lures of the devil and to avoid one being tempted by the other. Therefore, you should not exchange these messages with him unless there is a religious need in which case there is no harm, provided this is done according to the necessity and within Islamic principles and morals.
It should be noted, however, that when a woman marries a man from another country, most of the time this leads to many disadvantages in the future. If this is the case, then you should first perform Istikhaarah (prayer for seeking guidance from Allaah when intending to undertake a given matter) and then seek the advice of a trustworthy religious person, and you should think twice before marrying, especially that your marriage to this man could be delayed because of his studies as you mentioned in your question.
Allaah Knows best.
Search Fatwa
Fatwa Subject
