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Her father mistreats her mother

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As-salaam-wu -alaikum,my question is based on the topic"treatment of a husband with his wife".my dad doesn't treat my mom well.my mom is very humble.kind,loving,sincere in all her duties towards her husband(i.e.my dad)my dad suspects frequently on her.i knowthat suspection is a very big sin.my father knowng ly does it,when my mom has got no knowled ge of whom my dad is connecting to which p erson.everyday there are frequent fights in the house.my dad prays 5 times prayers daily,recites quran,but he doesn't treat his wife and children well.there is a big mess with dad &mom.mom is bearing this since she was married.don u thnk my dad is getting a very big sin.with this behaviour are his prayers getting accepted.my mom is so fed up wid his character, she wants to get rid of her.wot do u thnk we shd do,mymom can't bare him any more.it would b kind of u if u cud help me out,so that i can save my dad from getting sins as well as keep my mom happy.jazakalla khair

Answer

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

There is no doubt that the husband is religiously required to treat his wife kindly as Allaah Says (what means): {And live with them in kindness. For if you dislike them, perhaps you may dislike a thing and Allaah makes therein much good.}[Quran 4:19]. Moreover, it is confirmed that the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said: "The best among you are the best (when dealing) with their wives." When some women complained about the bad treatment of their husbands to the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, he, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: "Those (husbands who mistreat their wives) are not the best among you." [Ibn Maajah].

We have already issued Fataawa 90751 and 89630 clarifying the stand of the children towards their father if he mistreats their mother, so please refer to them. We have also issued Fataawa 89109 and 87877 clarifying the ruling of a spouse having doubts about his/her partner, so please refer to them.

As regards your question whether or not the prayer of your father is accepted if he mistreats your mother, then the answer is that the prayer has some conditions and pillars and if one fulfils them, the prayer is sufficient and it is hoped that it will be accepted. However, it is not possible to authoritatively assert that someone's prayer is accepted, because this is a matter of the unseen which can not be known except by revelation and the revelation stopped. However, it is feared that a person who has a bad conduct would enter Hellfire as the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) replied when he was asked about a woman who performs the prayer abundantly and fasts regularly but she harms her neighbours: She is in Hellfire. [Ahmad].

Allaah Knows best.

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